Marriage Ceremonies
I don't like to go to marriage ceremonies. Shocked?
Well, read on. I have always felt bored in marriage ceremonies. I feel it's nothing but a waste of time. I can't put up an artificial smile on my face and pretend to be happy when I am not.
The common question one comes across in marriage ceremonies is "Aap kaise hai?"
Are, if I wasn't well would i have come ? No way. People might think that I am a a complete egoist. Let them think what they want. This is my space and I shall write what i feel.
I am not saying that I am always correct. No I am often wrong as well.
Till now I have attended a number of marriage ceremonies. I frankly admit I did not enjoy any of them. I had to go just to maintain our position in the society. "Log kya sochenge", has been the single factor because of which I had to go, even though it was totally against my wishes. In majority of the cases my mother used to go and sit beside the bride chatting with other elderly members of the family. It was usually totally full of ladies. I often accompanied my mother inside and sit with her. But I always felt very uneasy. I felt totally out of place looking like an idiot. So a 5-6 years back I stopped going inside along with my mother. Instead I used to stay with my father whenever we went grace a marriage.
However my father used to talk with fellow elderly members about various things starting from the state of Indian politics to the well being of the next door neighbour. After a few days I became totally disenchanted. So now whenever I go to a marriage ceremony I occupy a good chair( infront of the fan of course), grab a cold drink and sit in solitude. I prefer that to the constant babble going on around. Now, u might ask as to wht abt my cousins and ohter relatives of my age. Well, I happen to be the youngest member of my family. All my cousins are much elder than me, married and well settled. I dont have any brothers or sisters. Hence there is no chance of coming across someone of my age. The immediate elder to me is 12 yrs older than me, while the next youngest is 15 yrs junior to me.
So u see, what a precarious position I am in.
In the last marriage I had gone to attend, my mother found me after 2 hrs sitting in a veranda all alone. See, I am not a very gregarious person by nature. I am an introvert, and I cant just go and start talking to an unknown person as if he is my long lost friend. Sorry, I simply cant do that. I think that every person has a role to play in this drama called life. So no one should despise me just because I am an introvert and speak much less than many other people. The very fact that they speak more than me doesn't mean that they are better than me.
Today I had to go to another marriage. I hope this one is the last for a long long time to come. My mother said that unless I go she would not go. So i acquiesced.
It was another boring two hours wasted which could have been spent watching the Wimbledon semifinals. So whenever u happen to grace a marriage lookout for the most desolate place in the house. For u might come across me, happily sitting there and sipping a cold drink without a care of the world!
Well, read on. I have always felt bored in marriage ceremonies. I feel it's nothing but a waste of time. I can't put up an artificial smile on my face and pretend to be happy when I am not.
The common question one comes across in marriage ceremonies is "Aap kaise hai?"
Are, if I wasn't well would i have come ? No way. People might think that I am a a complete egoist. Let them think what they want. This is my space and I shall write what i feel.
I am not saying that I am always correct. No I am often wrong as well.
Till now I have attended a number of marriage ceremonies. I frankly admit I did not enjoy any of them. I had to go just to maintain our position in the society. "Log kya sochenge", has been the single factor because of which I had to go, even though it was totally against my wishes. In majority of the cases my mother used to go and sit beside the bride chatting with other elderly members of the family. It was usually totally full of ladies. I often accompanied my mother inside and sit with her. But I always felt very uneasy. I felt totally out of place looking like an idiot. So a 5-6 years back I stopped going inside along with my mother. Instead I used to stay with my father whenever we went grace a marriage.
However my father used to talk with fellow elderly members about various things starting from the state of Indian politics to the well being of the next door neighbour. After a few days I became totally disenchanted. So now whenever I go to a marriage ceremony I occupy a good chair( infront of the fan of course), grab a cold drink and sit in solitude. I prefer that to the constant babble going on around. Now, u might ask as to wht abt my cousins and ohter relatives of my age. Well, I happen to be the youngest member of my family. All my cousins are much elder than me, married and well settled. I dont have any brothers or sisters. Hence there is no chance of coming across someone of my age. The immediate elder to me is 12 yrs older than me, while the next youngest is 15 yrs junior to me.
So u see, what a precarious position I am in.
In the last marriage I had gone to attend, my mother found me after 2 hrs sitting in a veranda all alone. See, I am not a very gregarious person by nature. I am an introvert, and I cant just go and start talking to an unknown person as if he is my long lost friend. Sorry, I simply cant do that. I think that every person has a role to play in this drama called life. So no one should despise me just because I am an introvert and speak much less than many other people. The very fact that they speak more than me doesn't mean that they are better than me.
Today I had to go to another marriage. I hope this one is the last for a long long time to come. My mother said that unless I go she would not go. So i acquiesced.
It was another boring two hours wasted which could have been spent watching the Wimbledon semifinals. So whenever u happen to grace a marriage lookout for the most desolate place in the house. For u might come across me, happily sitting there and sipping a cold drink without a care of the world!
posted by An Unknown Citizen at 10:47 PM
4 Comments:
wow man i cant belive this.you write this and a day after i write the one on my blog.we sure match frquencies !
so u too r in the same league as abhinav. but i enjoy going to wedding ceremonies. in fact they seem a very gud way of meeting new people n unwinding myself
kya bey DD kya yaar ab to teri bhi shaadi kareeb hai aisi baten time being ke liye chod de barna teri shadi mein koi bhi nahin ayega any way abe watch out for babes in such ceremonies and u can end up with a date. young people enjoy it thisway only hope u will have a change in your opinion once u marry
Hey that was so cool....i love going to marriages....but to read someone's views like that was fun.......
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